It is a sin to cry in this mad mad world!

Isn't it? That's how you are badged right to have expressed your downsides and to break down? Oh, that person is cranky! Better not even invite a conversation with them! So on, and so forth!!! 

It is so weird that when you want to be most understood that this world misunderstands you. You are screeching pain, exhaustion and tiredness and want to see if someone can hear you out, but all you get is gyan like "You are a sympathy seeker", "You do not have any value", "How so full of self pity are you?", "What a shame, it's waste of telling you anything", "you cannot take a stance", "you only sit and complain to see the world running away in front of you, but not do a thing about it", "It's like talking to a wall, when one does not stand up for themselves" ... 

It might seem so true to anyone reading this and might even buy the fact that the person is in fact hungry for attention, but it is quite rare that one seeks to relentlessly strive to first understand their cries. 

No person on this planet is born without any talents, and no person on this very same planet would love to fall to dissolving themselves to suffering. What appears to you like seeking sympathy could be their loudest cry to hold them tight and stop them from sinking further, 

Yes, it can seem daunting to see your heroes sometime not get up and move their ass for ages, and in those cases, please understand that they have not yet completely healed or they are currently in the process of healing. Never push a person who's trying to find themselves back to pieces from all the brokenness when you cannot fathom all the pain they have gone through, or are still going through. Trust me, some of it is beyond our cognizance too. Even if you put yourselves in their shoes, you cannot walk it, believe me!

It is understandable that you want the person in pain to come out of those clutches and feel the light, it is absolutely fair on your part. It is not needed for you to stop expecting and giving up on that person, specially when you know that you are one of those few people they can absolutely count on. Do all that you can and in your own way, but please do not label them to be a shit load of dump. This is just not going to help. 

You might feel all your attempts are simply an abuse of your efforts and energy. You might also feel disrespected or taken for granted. Let me remind you, it is not about you, it is about them, as the person is in a total confusion as to what is even the definition of light, and if you are tired of it, just let it be. Just pray and bless them hard. Actually, do a favor - cast your best Patronus charm on them, and shoo away all their dementors.  

Mental health is real and this is one of the reasons why people are afraid to even approach anyone - they know every damn person will only look at things from their point of view, no matter how non-judgmental they happen to claim themselves to be. 

The foremost quality of a GP or a psychologist or counsellor is Patience even before empathy and genuine concern. Kindly note, you cannot force the change, then it would only be a convoluted one and the person would only play to your tunes until you are around, and after you are done being in touch with them, they are again lost and devastated. 

Healing and completely seeing the sun forever might takes few days or months or even years for a bunch, and as a counsellor or coach, perhaps just even their best friend or confidant, never push for change while being the catalyst to change, because when they sprung up from within, no force can stop them from reaching the skies! They are powerful beyond measure, and even you cannot stop them from attaining their glory!